3 dates a week doesn’t sound abnormal for OK Cupid. As many people have mentioned in previous threads, OKC attracts a number of time wasters.That site is heavily populated by folks not terribly interested in anything beyond attention or a casual relationship. I’m going to guess that you’re a quantity over quality person.Not a wonderful thing to do, but not a crime either. I won't, especially now that I have an idea how she would react if I did something really wrong. They cordially correspond with a guy, maybe chat on the phone, and decide - as they have every right to - that they don't want to pursue things.Then they get one, two hostile, even hateful, emails from the guy, as though they had broken up after years together.I've had several first dates where we enjoyed each other but things didn't heat up enough intellectually, spiritually and physically, to go to the next step only to get texts or emails along the lines of "Most men I meet can't WAIT to see me again!" (That is an exact quote.) Another potential date (this one was three to four years ago, but the memory is clear) and I texted back and forth about when and where to meet.Matched with destiny, your future trips happily towards the light.This is the best case scenario, a situation that everybody assures you will happen, regardless of how dire it all looks.
There is one special case that men, in particular, will often see as 'rejection' where they should not: when they receive no response at all.'Explore' means trying to understand why the rejection occurred. Many times, you don't have much to go on - just a 'Not interested'.People who reject you rarely give a lot of reasons or facts to help you figure out why they acted as they did. Sometimes it's possible to do everything right, but do it in the wrong way.You follow up, you wait, things usually don’t pan out.When you do find success, you realize that it came the way most things in life happen — organically, through people you know.