You've met a sweet, wonderful woman and you want to get to know her on a deeper level, but there's a lurking cloud of gloom from your past threatening to rain on the new happiness you're just starting to build.
You want to tell her about it, but it's something you're ashamed of – something serious, like cheating on your last girlfriend, a large amount of debt or maybe even a former addiction!
I realize that's not trusting the person, but there's not a whole lot of trust there when you first start dating.
Everyone has a past, what matters is how they've moved on and if they've learned from their mistakes.
But, before you get frustrated and call it quits, here are seven things to remember about a girl who has been through hell:1.
If your dark secret is only a slight misstep that you rectified long ago, something that will have no impact on dating or your life now, first consider whether you need to share it at all.
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Would you date someone who admitted to you they were in prison for assault, and has admitted to past criminal activity? As far as I know this guy has a good job now, but she knows little else about him, like if he was ever married or has a girlfriend.
I often ask, “You didn’t see this before you were married?
” Then she’ll tell me, “Yes, but I thought I could change him.” I think a lot of people are not being totally honest during the dating process.